Marriage

[Holly]

Not sure if there has been a thread on this before, can't remember.

Would you ever get married?
If so, why? and how would you do it? Would you propose? If you're a woman would you expect to be proposed to? If you're a man, do you think it is your duty to propose, and would you be offended (not in the offensive way, but would you feel it was against tradition) if a woman proposed to you? What would your wedding ceremony be like?

If not, why not?

How do you feel about children out of wedlock?


I don't ever intend on getting married, I don't really like the idea. I don't want to ever have a tacky wedding and I don't think any day would make me wholly satisfied. I don't think I need a day to show that I love someone and intend on spending the rest of my life with them. My current boyfriend said he'd always imagined getting married, but if I don't ever want to, he'll be happy never getting married and just being with me.

[Mark]

I'd want to get married eventually. I'd like to propose, but the woman proposing wouldn't offend me, I'd just prefer to do it myself. Children out of wedlock doesnt bother me, but I guess its better to be married.

[Justin]

well there's some obstacles down the road for me.

i'm a child out of wedlock woo woo.

[Patton]

I'd insist that she propose.
I'm not much into theatrics, the whole getting down on one knee is a bit too theatrical. It's like, can't you just go "here's a ring you wanna wear it?"

But to answer the main question, no to marriage.

[Fiona]

im a hopeless romantic.
so id like to get married some day.
it'd be a lavish affair, and there would definately be an element of tack, we're talking kareoke here.

[Mark]

karaoke at a wedding? seriously?

[Adrian]

most weddings have karaoke?

[Holly]

My sister had a massive church wedding with a horse drawn carriage, large marquee and terrible dj etc etc. the whole thing just makes me cringe. Why have a church wedding when you're not religious? I could never see myself going through the whole thing.

[Emma]

I've never been to a wedding with karaoke! I think it would be kinda fun just not at my own because I'd probably be required to sing.

[Lisa]

Haha, Fi. I want my wedding to be fun, not boring and super traditional.

I plan on getting married and probably within the next four - six years. I also plan to have a child out of wedlock because if everyone else can use the system, I can too damn it! (It's slightly more beneficial to be a 'single' mother than a married mother.)

[Emma]

Oh and to answer the question, I don't have a problem with marriage but i wouldn't want a big wedding. Something simple and abroad with a few close friends and family would be ideal. Failing that we'd just fuck off to Vegas.

Don't have a problem with having children out of wedlock.

[Holly]

Haha, Fi. I want my wedding to be fun, not boring and super traditional.

I plan on getting married and probably within the next four - six years. I also plan to have a child out of wedlock because if everyone else can use the system, I can too damn it! (It's slightly more beneficial to be a 'single' mother than a married mother.)

so you plan on having a child in the next few years?

[FreeDee]

Nearly made that mistake before, won't make it again.....

[Lisa]

so you plan on having a child in the next few years?

Pretty much, yeah.

[Fiona]

well of course the main part would be a terribly classy affair, gorgeous meal beautiful venue etc etc.
then i plan on putting a couple of grand behind the bar in the evening, then we start up the karaoke/cheesy disco, everyone gets drunk/sings, and has an amazing time.

id quit like to get married in the church down the road to my house at home, and have the vicar whom ive lived next door to my entire life marry us, im not terribly religious but i think church weddings are beautiful.

[Air]

How old are you Lisa?

I'm not particularly fussed about the idea of marriage/civil partnership/whatever. It's a nice gesture I suppose but I think you can have an equally strong commitment to somebody without signing a wedding license.

[Lisa]

How old are you Lisa?

I'm not particularly fussed about the idea of marriage/civil partnership/whatever. It's a nice gesture I suppose but I think you can have an equally strong commitment to somebody without signing a wedding license.

24 soon.

[FreeDee]

well of course the main part would be a terribly classy affair, gorgeous meal beautiful venue etc etc.
then i plan on putting a couple of grand behind the bar in the evening, then we start up the karaoke/cheesy disco, everyone gets drunk/sings, and has an amazing time.

id quit like to get married in the church down the road to my house at home, and have the vicar whom ive lived next door to my entire life marry us, im not terribly religious but i think church weddings are beautiful.

See now the way i look at it, you can do pretty much all of that without actually having to sign a bit of paper that makes no real difference other than causing allsorts of nightmares if the relationship doesn't work out. Personally if i did ever find anyone mental enough to want to spend the rest of their life with me, i don't need a bit of paper to tell me that, i could just as easily spend a few grand on a massive party to celebrate the fact that me and the aforementioned mental case were going to see out our days together.

[Nick]

I'd like to get married when I'm in my 30s. Just think of all the gifts you'll get.

[Jasmine]

i am a massive marriage-phobe. my friend said "skip the ceremony bit and just sign the paper" but even that freaks me out. i reeeeeeeeally don't like it, i wouldn't want to be bound to someone like that. people tell me i'll change my mind but seeing as i've felt like that since i was like FIVE i doubt it. i don't know why it is, i see it as such a hassle, especially if you end up seperating.... but maybe around the time jesus returns back ill find someone who i will want to get married to. ; ) if i HAD to get married (i.e. save someones life) none of this karaoke shiz, something like grace kellys plz



plus he's signing a pre-nup, i don't care, god i'm so unromantic hahahahahaha.

oh and the one thing i hate more than marriage is CHILDREN so no not before marriage, not during marriage, not after marriage. i have also realised that its a pet peeve when brides wear short veils, i seem to have an irrational hatred for them.

[Mitch]

i have no idea.

the thought of being with one person for the rest of my life scares me.

[Jasmine]

awww i love photos of old weddings, found one just now. this one from my uncle's wedding, but he passed away a long time ago when i was a bb. those two kids on the side is my dad + uncle being naughty.



BIG HAIR

[Alex]

How old are you Lisa?

I'm not particularly fussed about the idea of marriage/civil partnership/whatever. It's a nice gesture I suppose but I think you can have an equally strong commitment to somebody without signing a wedding license.

this, but if my partner wanted to sign a piece of paper to signify our relationship and it was serious enough, i wouldnt be apposed to it, but i personally wouldn't want it

[Jasmine]

if i fail these exams i'm getting married, i don't care, i've decided now. screw feminism

[Claire]

Not sure if I'd get married. I guess depends on the situation and where I'm at 5+ years from now.

I'm too independent and focused on myself to predict anything. Nowadays, with marriages not lasting it's important for a woman to have her own career, goals, etc.

[abbie]

I dunno if i wanna get married anymore we'll see

[Kay]

My sister had a massive church wedding with a horse drawn carriage, large marquee and terrible dj etc etc. the whole thing just makes me cringe. Why have a church wedding when you're not religious? I could never see myself going through the whole thing.

lol, sounds like hell! which is why after i saw how great my sisters wedding was...

Oh and to answer the question, I don't have a problem with marriage but i wouldn't want a big wedding. Something simple and abroad with a few close friends and family would be ideal. Failing that we'd just fuck off to Vegas.

Don't have a problem with having children out of wedlock.

...i'd do the above

small wedding, without the karaoke, somewhere abroad etc is the way forward

[Jasmine]

as of last week ive decided im going to get married because im sick and tired of going to weddings where they get the basic stuff wrong!!! so i'll have one thats awesome and then get divorced or something, ha.

edit - jokes aside though i do want to meet someone soon and "settle" but for me settling down doesnt necessarily equate to marriage. wish i had the time to even look for someone!

[George]

I'd like to get married sometime down the road. Not really sweating how the wedding would go or any of that until the time comes

[Fiona]

soon??
my god i cant imagion even living with a boy until im like 25. i'd be too selfish with wardrobe space.